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Reflecting on Motherhood

Thu, 26 Aug 2010 01:48:00 GMT

Some years ago, on meeting my 2 daughters, a friend said “You’re so lucky, you’re girls are lovely. They are so friendly and polite.” I said “Thank you” feeling the pride and joy that goes with such a moment.

Later, on reflection however, I thought to myself, “What did luck have to do with it?”   I’m not lucky, it was hard work and I made a lot of sacrifices.

Bringing up children with manners, a high level of communication skills, understanding of the feelings of others, together with love of learning didn’t just happen. Bringing up my children had been hard work, and I made a lot of sacrifices to stay home with them in those critical years of their cognitive (mental) development, especially with a largely absent husband/father figure. Fortunately, I loved it. They were the best years of my life and I have very fond memories of those times.

Recently, my life has been in a time warp since I learned that I am to become a grandmother; my baby is having a baby. My baby, by the way is 31, is happily married, and together with my son-in-law will be fabulous parents I have no doubt.   But for me to watch my daughter in her pregnancy has brought back a lot of the emotions and memories of me carrying her over 30 years ago. We talk often of the joys and issues around motherhood and it has been a wonderful time for me. I’ve also gained heightened awareness of other babies.

As I watched a mother and baby on the train the other day I remembered just how much work a 1 year old is. In a 20 minute train ride, the child got out of the stroller, back in the stroller, took off her shoes, sang a song with mum, had a drink, took off the jacket, put the jacket back on, threw the shoe, got back into the stroller, tried very hard to clip the safety catch, back out of the stroller, climb on the seat and look out the window, bounce up and down looking out the window.   Suddenly, it went dark outside, the child look at mum with surprise .... mum said “tunnel”, the child’s face softened (all is well), the child then repeated “tunnel”.    All the time mum was patiently watching and attending to the clues that often only a mother recognises.   The child was confident, inquisitive and curious about everything new, and she knew that mum was near and she was safe to explore.
The child’s mother was patient and observant, vigilant and responsive to the child’s needs and safety in the environment of a moving train, keeping her entertained and happy during the boring train ride.   The wave of memories of me doing exactly the same things with my babies was like a warm blanket.

This child was bright, energetic, gorgeous and happy... just as she should be; just as my girls had been all those years ago. I feel so blessed and grateful that I was able to spend those critical years 0-5, at home, helping my girls to learn, investigate and grow in an environment where they knew they were safe.

If you’re fortunate enough to be a stay-at-home mum, count your blessings and be thankful. I’m sure all the mums out there will agree with me. It takes time, patience and energy to make it look easy, and to have the perfect child.

Reflecting on Motherhood by Elizabeth Carter, Registered Psychologist. Bravo Coommunication www.bravocommunication.com.au 1300 85 95 83

Phobias, Fears and Anxiety in Young Children

Tue, 31 Aug 2010 07:12:00 GMT

This month I am taking a look at Phobias, Fears and Anxiety in Young Children and next month I will look at tips to help your children overcome their fears.

Anxiety disorders

Anxiety disorders are very common. One in four people will experience an anxiety disorder at some stage in their lives. We all feel anxious at times but some people are unable to control their anxiety it becomes so overwhelming that it affects their everyday activities making it difficult for them to cope.

Types of Anxiety disorders in children

There several types of anxiety disorders the most common in children are:

Generalised Anxiety disorder (GAD) - This is a feeling of being constantly anxious or worried.
Panic Disorder – An intense feeling of anxiety or panic attack which cannot be brought under control easily.
Social Phobia – when a child has a fear of failure, of being criticised or humiliated
Specific Phobias – being fearful of particular objects or situations.
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - this is caused by unwanted or intrusive thoughts and fears which cause anxiety. The anxiety are brought under control by carrying out certain rituals.

Common Fears of Toddlers

Toddlers love routines. Routines can often bring security and familiarity which help toddlers to feel safe or to help them deal with their fears. Knowing what is expected of you and what is coming next can help prevent childhood anxieties. This is often seen with a child who requests the same story every night or the same cup and plate to eat off.

Because young children do not have our understanding of the world as we do they may develop fears or become upset over things such being flushed away with the water going down the toilet or going down the plughole with the bathwater. This stems from their lack of understanding of size, space and time. If a child has a particular fear you may be able to avoid or change the situation for a short time and reintroduce them to it slowly over a longer period.   Another idea is to make a fearful situation into one of fun. Place a small plastic ball in the toilet and watch it bounce around but not get flushed down. Have a shower with dad instead of a bath or bath in a large plastic bowl.

Around the age of 2-3 years toddlers are hyper sensitive to their emotions. This period can be quite frightening for them until they learn how to bring them under control.   New thing or environment may seem very frightening, even if we see them as no risk at all.
They can also be fearful of other people’s powerful emotions and burst into tears when a parent shows anger or despair.   In the heart of all toddlers is the desire to please those they love. Some toddlers are perfectionist by nature these children may feel angry at themselves when they have displeased or disappointed themselves or their parents. Talk to them gently and try to find out what has made them feel this way, reassure them that they are loved for who they are and not for what they do or do not do. Let them know it is alright to feel angry sometimes but also make sure they understand that when they are angry it is not alright to hurt themselves or others or to let anyone hurt them.

Common Fears of Young Children

Fear may be cause by a variety of events:

The most commonly cause of fear stem from the unknown – new or strange situations, and things we cannot understand or control. A child is constantly facing new and unfamiliar situations which to some children can be overwhelming and fearful.
Fear can also be a learned behaviour. A child may observe and respond to another person’s reaction – such as a parent who is fearful of dogs, spiders or heights.
Fear may have resulted from a frightening event where the child themselves personal experience something that terrified or harmed them such as an angry dog bitting them.
Then there is imaginary fear that can be caused by hearing scary stories or watching inappropriate TV programs. Children under the age of seven are unable to distinguish the difference between fiction, fantasy and reality and see all as reality. This is why all stories books and TV should be closely monitored for children under seven. Including graphic new stories on TV. Their vivid imagination and these images and impressions can also lead to nightmares. A child’s imaginations can also create their own fears such as monsters which can then lead to a fear of the dark. Parents can inadvertently exacerbate this situation by leaving a night light on which can reinforce their fears.

Abnormal fears

If you are concerned your child has problem with fear or has a phobia there are certain things you can look for.
Things to look for if you are concerned that your child’s fear has become a problem?

· Is this fear a reasonable reaction to a situation?
· Is the fear interfering with the child’s everyday life or that of the family?

Anxiety disorders are common, but the sooner you get help, the sooner you can help you child learn to control these conditions so that they do not control your child.

Next month I will look at tips to help your children overcome their fears.

This article was written by mothercraft nurse Sally Hall from Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions.

For more information on similar parenting topics you may like take a look at our e-books Publications on this link.

Breath Holding

Fri, 16 Jul 2010 22:19:00 GMT

Breath holding can be a terrifying event especially when a child passes out. A child who has a tendency to holds their breath often does so between the ages of one and three years old.

The most common reason for children to hold their breath is attention seeking. When a child becomes extremely angry or frustrated they may hold their breath and turn blue and may even pass out.   Because as a parent you will be alarmed and even frightened you will of course give your child extra attention, cuddles and reassurance. This unfortunately will reinforce the breath holding behaviour.   On the other hand you don’t want to totally ignore the child who has passed out.

The best management for these attention seeking tantrums such as breath holding is to distract the child. Divert their attention by doing something to engage their interest. Mind you this doesn’t always ensure you will prevent one of these tantrums. If you child does continue their tantrum, once they have stopped or come too try not to give them too much attention.

If too much attention is constantly given to a child who holds their breath it may develop into a tool for manipulation. When a child sees that their parents will give them what they have been demanding, if they hold their breath, they may begin to use this as a means to get their own way.   Give attention to positive behaviour and try to avoid giving too much attention to what may become attention seeking behaviour.

The reassuring news is that a child cannot cause themselves brain damage or die for holding their breath. The worse thing that can happen is that they may fall and injury themselves or in rare occasions holding their breath has been known to cause seizure-like movements.   Once these spells are over their body will automatically resume control and they will start breathing again.

If your child has breath holding episodes it is wise to inform your doctor as there may be an underlying physical problem.

It has been thought that anaemia (low iron) may be a cause. A blood test will determine if the child is anaemic and in need of an iron supplement. If your doctor continues to be concerned they may suggest and ECG (electrocardiogram) test.

On the other hand you may have the family history of fainting. This is a less common form of breath holding. A child may cry out or gasps, turn pale and pass out. This usually occurs if the child is in pain or injured. These children are more likely to have problems with fainting later in life.

This article was written by mothercraft nurse Sally Hall from Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions.

For more information on similar parenting topics toddler or child behavioural issues including tips on how to cope you may like to read our e-book ‘When the Bough Breaks’ . You can find this on our Publications link.

Phobias, Fears and Anxiety

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 03:43:00 GMT

Parents naturally want to protect their children against the terrors and pains this world can bring but unfortunately there are some things that we may not be able to protect our children from. Some of these life’s experience are difficult to avoid or prevent these events may lead to fears, anxiety or phobias.

Fear is a normal and healthy response to prepare us to deal with a potentially dangerous situation– fear triggers our adrenalin making us highly alert and ready for action. It is natural and healthy to be fearful of some things, in fact we need to teach young children to be aware of some dangers such as hot stoves, traffic and strangers to name a few, this fear helps them to stay safe. On the other hand it is a natural part of a baby’s development to become anxious around stranger and when separated from their parents. This commonly occurs around six to nine months of age.

What are phobias, fears and anxiety?

A phobia is an irrational, intense and persistent fear of certain situations, activities, things, animals, or people. This fear over takes the persons rational thought with an unreasonable desire to avoid that which is feared. A fear like this is much stronger than the risk of personal harm. When the fear is beyond one's control it will interfere with daily life.

Anxiety is a generalized mood condition that can often occur without an identifiable triggering stimulus. That is the person may not be clear about what is worrying them.

While fear is an emotional feeling that has a particular cause such as a particular situation, activity, thing, animal, or person. Fear triggers a number of changes in the body which is known as the flight or fight response. This causes the heart rate and breathing increase, the person may also feel shaky, turn pale, perspire or have an ‘butterflies’ in their stomach.

Abnormal fears

Normal fears

It is normal for parents to be concerned about their children's fears and anxieties. No two children are alike in their fears or worries and their reactions to situations may vary enormously. We can’t always shield our children from these situations as most children are worried and fearful about something sometime during their lives.

So what we can do as parents is to help our children overcome their fears and gain the confidence they need to be able to face their fears and worries?

Firstly let’s take a look at some of the common fears children face during their early years of life.

Common Fears of Babies

All babies have an inherent fear response to anything unfamiliar or unusual this can be a sudden loud noises, rapid movements or heights. When a baby is afraid or frightened they will cry this is to attract their parent’s attention so that they will be rescued. As previously mentioned around six to nine months a child will often experience separation or stranger anxiety.

Separation anxiety
This is when a baby who is usually friendly, happy and smile at anyone may for a period of time become clingy in preference for their parents or main caregiver. At around seven to eight months, they may become very upset if you are, at anytime, out if their sight for even a short time. Babies that are able to crawl will constantly be following you around.

This separation anxiety is due to their lack of understanding. They feel that when you leave them you may never return. In general a child will try to draw you back to themselves through a cry of protest. If this fails, louder protests may follow or the child may lose interest in their play, winge, whine or throw a tantrum.

Severe anxiety often occurs if a parent has been away from home for long periods of time which is often the case when mum leaves to have another baby in hospital.

Stranger anxiety
Not all babies have a fear of strangers, but most do for a shot time in their lives with some children it can last until they are 2 years old. This fear of strangers may also include people they have know well, such as grandparents. Fear of strangers is most common with people they have little or infrequent contact with outside the immediate family.

Ways to help prevent fears

Some fears are taught or copied from parents or sibling.

One of the most common fears, the fear of the dark can actually be taught to a child by a unsuspecting parent. It may start innocently and end up being a learned fear. Mothers often leave a light on overnight so that she can check on the baby while it sleeps. This is fine but if the light continues to remain on overnight it may become something the child becomes accustomed to and when you finally decide to turn it of the child may become very unhappy. This can eventually cause the child to be scared of the dark. It is better to turn the light off when the child is only a few months old to avoid this problem.

It is not always possible to know what may trigger fear but we can help children overcome their.

Ways you can help your baby overcome these fears

Never force your baby to go to a stranger, always allow baby to observe the person first from the security of your arms.
Ask the person you are introducing to the child to observe the child’s personal space and not to speak directly to the child until the child relaxes.   Once the child has made their observation of the person and depending on their assumptions are willing to be released from their parent’s arms, they may then observe the person for a distance before approaching them or allowing them to approach.

Reassure grandparents, whose natural tendency is to smother a child with love that they will need to be patient with the child who will gradually grow out of this phase. It is all part of growing up and learning about how to deal with this big world around them. If people force themselves upon the child it will only make matters worse.    Remind the adults to think of the child’s feeling before their own.
Note your own feelings towards a person as a child can often pick up on your feelings for a person and in response feel safe or anxious.

When the main child caregiver needs to leave a child with a minder it is wise to allow the child to get to know the minder before being left alone with them. This can be done with short periods of separation which can gradually be increased to longer periods.   During these times, whether the child is being cared at home on in another environment, it is it is suggested that the carer keeps to the child’s routine as much as possible. It is also important that the caregiver gives the child special attention and care to help the child feel secure and safe
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Next month I would like to take a look at Phobias, Fears and Anxiety in Young Children

This article was written by mothercraft nurse Sally Hall from Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions.

For more information on similar parenting topics you may like take a look at our e-books Publications on this link.

Psychological Impact of Reflux

Tue, 29 Jun 2010 00:29:00 GMT

The psychological impact of your baby’s reflux on you and your family

I am a mother of two children who both suffered from reflux as babies and a psychologist who continues to see exhausted and distraught mothers of babies with reflux in my practise.

Having been through the incessant and nerve shattering screaming of the baby in pain, the broken and insufficient sleep for the entire family and the merry go round of searching for the right treatment, I can relate to this issue immensely. Fortunately, I can also relate to the relief and joy of finding the right treatment and support as well as finally seeing light at the end of the tunnel.

From the amount of friends, patients and family members I encounter who have struggled with a reflux baby; I can see how wide spread the problem is. When I had my first son Jake in 2005, reflux was not as commonly experienced or talked about in my circles as it was when I had my second son in 2008. In hindsight I can see that all the sleeping and feeding issues I had with Jake were very similar if not worse than those that I experienced with my second little one who was diagnosed with reflux by a paediatrician. At the time, particularly with being a new mum, I attributed those issues to my lack of experience, bad luck, just the type of baby I had etc. By about 8 months old many of the difficulties had eased (which I now assume was the reflux coming to an end) but we were left with a baby who woke up throughout the night every hour and two extremely frazzled parents. Fortunately we were able to get help and sorted out the sleep, but it was a very rocky period, especially for first time parents.

By the time I gave birth to my second baby, Brandon, many of my friends were experiencing reflux with their second babies. I had watched as my friends struggled with the sudden change of peaceful babies to screaming, unhappy, unsettled little people. I had also seen the transformation once reflux was diagnosed and treated. For the first 6 weeks Brandon was a ‘dream baby’ who slept and breast fed perfectly and then almost overnight he too transformed into the screaming baby who often could not be put down for hours on end, would not settle and was starting to be a problematic feeder. Being a second time mother and desperate not to repeat what I’d gone through with my first baby and with the knowledge I now had about reflux I decided to ‘get on top of it’ immediately. I contacted Cradle 2 Kindy and together with a great paediatrician and the right medication and monitoring of that medication as he grew, within a few weeks the reflux was greatly improved and eventually fully under control. By 8 months old Brandon was off the medication.

Those are the two very different experiences I had with what I strongly suspect were my two reflux babies and which are echoed time and again by my clients who are going through the same thing.

My advice from a psychological perspective would therefore be:

If you are struggling with your baby, read up, get advice and trust your instincts. If the problems seem to be more than the normal feeding and settling issues that parents struggle with from time to time with a new baby, get the appropriate help. The longer you wait, the more it depletes your resources as a parent.
Sleep deprivation is one of the biggest problems for parents. Exhaustion detrimentally affects moods – increased anxiety, weepiness, feeling agitated and touchy, oversensitivity, feelings of being overwhelmed, helpless and out of control are all common reactions to a chronic lack of sleep. The solution is not always easy, particularly for parents who do not have family around, single parents and parents with limited financial resources for extra help etc. This is the time to ask for and accept help from anyone who is prepared to give it. This is not the time to try to be superwoman! Get rest and breaks wherever possible. Sleep when the baby sleeps, prioritise rest over housework wherever possible, couples can take shifts with the baby to give each other decent breaks according to the baby’s schedule and so on.
Make yourself and your mental health a priority. ‘Happy mother happy baby’ is really a cliché that carries much truth. Do what is right for you, stop worrying about what others think and drop that mother guilt whenever it shows up. Constantly remind yourself that you are doing the best that you can and ‘this too shall pass’ can be a handy mantra to repeat to yourself. If baby won’t sleep or settle and you are at your wits end, putting baby in the stroller and going for a walk can be a great way to calm down and it may be easier to handle the crying. Pull out all your resources – exercise, meditation, yoga, ringing a friend, a massage, walking in nature; whatever you can do with the resources that you have to make life more manageable during a difficult time goes a long way to preserving your sanity.
Watch out for your relationship. Stress and sleep deprivation play havoc on even the best relationships. Try to remember that your partner is also going through a difficult time and reassure each other (or yourself when that is not possible) that this is about the situation and not about your relationship. In certain cases it may be about a relationship that was rocky to start off with and difficulties with your baby will cause extra stress. If that is the case try to get help in the form of counselling. Again, this may not be possible at the time with the demands of the baby and I would suggest getting the help as soon as possible and not just ignoring the problems in the relationship once life with baby get easier.
And last but not least, if you feel that you are not coping, do not hesitate to get professional help by seeing your GP, a psychologist or counsellor.

Michelle Fox is a registered psychologist currently practising in the Eastern Suburbs of Sydney. Her goal is to equip her clients with effective tools and techniques to enable clients to live their best life and to cope during difficult times.

www.creatingyourbestlife.com.au

For an appointment contact Michelle on 0413225092

Feeding Frustration

Sat, 29 May 2010 04:56:00 GMT

When Karen Eriksen’s son began refusing almost all food at the age of two, it would take five years and several specialists to establish what the problem was.

My child lives on air alone. You think I am exaggerating, but not really. My seven-year-old boy, Finn, eats small quantities of dry white bread and chips (or potato balls) with tomato sauce. He also occasionally eats vanilla ice cream, pikelets or banana bread from a café. He drinks water, juice and sometimes strawberry milk. That’s about it

Finn doesn’t eat sausages, hamburgers, spaghetti bol or vegemite sandwiches. No meat, no fish, no sausages, no pasta, no rice, no grainy bread, no cheese, no yogurt, no butter, no jam or honey. He will come home from a mates’ birthday party and not have eaten a thing. He is of average height and thin, but not skinny. He is a worry, every day.

My friends ask how I deal with it, and I answer that I don’t any longer; that I have given up. But, naturally, that is not true. Periods of resignation alternate with my gathering my strength and dragging him to see another health professional. We have seen a lot of people over the years. And last year, we got a satisfactory diagnosis. But only after five years of worry and trying to make Finn eat.

Finn was a normal-sized baby, eight days overdue and breastfed until his first birthday. He was, however, a very unsettled and colicky child, but nothing that a dummy and over the counter medication couldn’t fix. Solids went well - the usual mashed up food, but also fish, risotto, yogurt. At about the age two, he started to decline food. When almost three his sister was born, a traumatic event that he is still coming to terms with. He continued to decline food – and more and more varieties of it.

The health-centre nurse said that he looks very healthy, and that he is over the 90th percentile in weight and height. I wasn’t surprised about the height, since I am over 180cm and he has tall Scandinavian genes in him. Our GP suggested that we see a dietician, the first of three we consulted to no avail. It wasn’t that Finn didn’t like the food; he never even took it into his mouth to try. Pushing him to take something into his mouth triggered heaving and sometimes vomiting.

By the time Finn was three, my husband lost patience, and suggested starving him out, with the notion “No child will starve himself to death.” Not true! The attempt to make Finn eat family meals or nothing at all had to be aborted after a few days. Finn was vomiting water, and he was still not eating.

We tried star charts, instant and medium-term rewards, punishments and encouraging Finn to earn himself some computer time by trying something new. Good advice arrived from everywhere. I offered Finn food that was similar to the types of food that he did eat, made food more interesting, involved Finn in the making the food, signed him up for cooking classes, made smoothies, put apple puree in pancakes, added wholemeal flour to banana bread.... All without success; Finn would not eat any of the food. Home-made food made him suspicious.

He also won’t take oral medicine or supplements. Thank God he doesn’t get sick a lot.

The paediatrician - twice consulted about the eating issue – said, after blood had been taken, that all Finn’s results were fine, a “miracle”, and, “even if they were not, what are we going to do about it, as he doesn’t take medicine.” This was not what I wanted to hear.

In kindergarten, Finn’s teacher voiced concern about his gross motor skills that might affect his fine motor, and therefore writing skills. An occupational therapist diagnosed him with ‘sensory integration dysfunction’, well known in the US, which basically means that his nerves are not very well connected to his brain. That made him clumsy, likely to fall over easily and could also, as the reading I did no the subject informed me, affect his eating. The occupational therapy fixed his motor skill problems, but not his eating.

Next was a visit to a speech therapist to see whether he had problems with his throat and swallowing. No problem there.

Our twice-yearly visit to the dentist revealed one hole after another; and the need for filling number four in a seven-year old that also already has a crown - his pirate tooth we call it. “Bad enamel,” the children’s dentist said. Finn also lost eight milk teeth while his classmates were still showing off their first missing tooth.

The third dietician managed to make Finn eat an almond. After ten weeks of consultations, she told us that she could save her time and I could save my money; there was nothing she could do to help him.

When we were on holiday, the problem turned into a nightmare. Foreign food looks and tastes different from things at home, most parents will know that. With a diet of chips, not a lot can go wrong you would think – but far from it. In America, the chips still have the potato skins on, in Germany, they put parsley and/or paprika on them - a major problem. On overseas holidays, Finn lives on vanilla ice cream. In Croatia one year, he developed hand foot and mouth disease. The hospital diagnosed it as tonsillitis, he didn’t eat for ten days and came home thin as a stick.

It isn’t as if Finn is not also completely frustrated by eating the same stuff day in and out. He gets desperate, but can’t make himself taking something new in his mouth. Uncountable times he has vomited across the table when we made him try a bit of fish or chicken.

Last year, my equally worried, mother who lives in Germany, had had it. We arrived in Germany for our annual holiday and he was whisked into hospital on day two to have a gastroscopy. No prior consultation necessary - my mum organised it with the chief gastro guy, we paid in cash, an hour later we were out of there with some pictures and a diagnosis. Finn’s oesophagus was inflamed; everything pointed to reflux. A paediatrician in Hamburg confirmed the diagnosis and prescribed some anti-acid medication. Back in Australia, we eventually got an appointment with the a gastro specialist for children. He looked at the stomach pictures, felt his stomach and said he didn’t even have to talk to me to diagnose the problem.

It’s quite simple: Finn has got reflux; he has had it all his life. The acid burns his stomach and throat, and his bowel is lazy and often completely full. His reflux also explains his abnormally bad teeth: the enamel is eaten by the acid. Why did nobody suspect that earlier? Couldn’t the specialist children’s dentist at least voice some concern? Finn never complained about pain. Still, I feel guilty.

At least now we have a diagnosis, and the anti-acid medication works. Previously, Finn didn’t get any deep sleep due to his reflux, and therefore was overtired and angry all the time. Fortunately, he is a changed child since taking the medicine. He is much happier, settled and pain-free. But that doesn’t make him eat.

A child who has been in pain when eating for his whole life will be deeply suspicious of food, even if not in pain any longer. We are now seeking a specialist to desensitise Finn and overcome his disgust of food in tiny steps. Finn’s future looks a lot brighter – but I still believe that he should have been diagnosed at two, not at seven year, and that if he has been, he would have avoided the psychological scarring.

Karen Eriksen

A note for Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions

Babies who are quite unsettled may be showing signs of reflux and should be treated immediately to avoid further complications. For more information on reflux or colic in babies and how to recognise the telltale signs please read Signs and Symptoms of Colic/Reflux Cradle to Kindy parenting coaches are specialized in recognising the symptoms of reflux and have practical tips to help you and your baby through this difficult time.

Understanding and Promoting Good Learning Behaviour and Attention

Sat, 29 May 2010 04:22:00 GMT

A lot of parents aim to stimulate their children early in order to promote good attention and learning abilities. This is a wonderful thing to do, but can sometimes lead to overstimulation of the child’s mind. Overstimulation can lead to moody behaviour, disobedience and difficulty in communication as they move toward kindergarten years. The one thing I tell new mothers is to feed your child’s mind, just as you would their appetite. You don’t want to over or under feed your baby and, as such, the same goes with their minds.

A healthy baby is going to have natural inquisitive behaviour about the world around them. Healthy learning development involves them being able to explore their environment, be it in their play pen or a secure room. They need lots of different shapes, colours, textures and (where parents can tolerate it!) sounds to explore. This should be done on a regular basis every day for a few hours and be supervised and structured by a parent or care-giver. If over-done, babies and toddlers can become disinterested in their surroundings because they literally have satiated their curiosity to soon. This is when you see them become moody and frustrated even at play time. It is therefore important that there is structured play time (several hours a day) with a person interacting with them to guide their learning vs. unstructured play time where a new toy, gadget, book or activity is introduced and the child interacts with it at their leisure to enjoy and work out its place in their world.

As children become older, parents tend to feel they need to engage them in lots of physical and mental activities. To some extent this is very good for them however, we can over do this. For example, if you think of yourself working 5 days a week and then engaging in extra-curricula activities of a night time after work, and hobbies or other social events on weekends, you would be exhausted because you have no time for yourself. In other words you have no time just to have ‘free play’. Children need unstructured play time and down time, just as adults do. This stimulates them to entertain themselves as well as to learn tolerance for not expecting structured learning or play throughout their childhood and later teenage years.

To summarise: to promote healthy learning behaviour and good attention in your babies and toddlers, consider doing the following on a day-to-day basis:

Have structured play time with your child where you read, engage in story telling with their toys, or simply provide basic puzzle solving games with blocks, shapes, colours and numbers. Do this for an hour or so every day.
Allow your child to continue unstructured play after the structured play time, or after they’ve have had a rest or a feed.
Try and change their play environment each week. For example, have them play in their room for a few days, then change their play environment to the living room for the next couple of days.
Always talk with your child during play. Even though they will not respond verbally, they will listen during play and retain phrases you say in relation to tasks you work on together.
Reward your children with lots of praise and cuddles each time they work out a puzzle or complete a game with you.
As your child gets older, remember to allow them to have ‘them’ time, where no activities or social events are planned for them during one or two days of the week. It is important they learn to engage their own intellect and accept that learning is not always externally regulated by parents and teachers.

Dr Andrew Campbell is a Child, Adolescent and Family Psychologist at the Brain and Mind Research Institute – Clinical Centre, located in Camperdown, Sydney.

Dr Campbell provides assessment and treatment for a wide a range of childhood behavioural development, mental health and learning disorders and accepts referrals from all GPs.
For bookings, please call (02) 9351-0672.
Medicare and Private Health Insurance rebates are available.

Allergies

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:15:00 GMT

Food Intolerances and Allergies

In today’s society children face many of life’s obstacles very early, even while at the breast. Some children react to breast milk. This invariably is attributed to what the mother is eating. There may be a lactose intolerance, cow’s or goat’s milk intolerance or a reaction to a certain type of food which their mother is eating and is passed through the breast milk to the child. Some of these children may grow out of their reaction other may be found intolerant or allergic to these foods. Food intolerances can also occur with bottle fed babies too such as a cow’s milk or soy intolerance. Some allergies and food intolerances are only picked up when a child starts solids.

Symptoms of an intolerance or allergy may begin in a baby with: vomiting, diarrhoea or loose smelly or mucusy stools, flatulence, irritable, excessive crying, black circles under the eyes, runny nose, wheezing, coughing, food refusal which may also indicate a reflux problem or it may appear as eczema, hives, itching, lethargic and in older children even aggressive or uncooperative behaviour.

For many years The National Health and Medical Research Council of Australia (NHMRC) followed the World Health Authorities recommendation of not starting solids before baby is 6 months. Unfortunately, it may be possible that this recommendation to delay the introduction of solids have done more harm than good.

Today, many Australian health professionals have revised their recommendation and have changing the age for starting solids to between four and six months. This is primarily due to the dramatic increase of all types of allergies, especially food related allergies, in children. Immunologists, doctors and dieticians specialising in allergies have suggested that delaying the introduction of solids may be interfering with the normal immune development reducing food tolerance and increasing allergies. Thus delaying the introduction of foods may actually be to the child’s determent. (see article: The Solids Controversy written by Karen Simmer PHD FRACP. Professor of Newborn Medicine, University of Western Australia).

Difference between Food Allergies and Intolerances

What is the difference between food allergies and intolerances? An allergy will give an immediate response as it is the immune system reaction to food proteins. An intolerance doesn’t involve the immune system but is triggered by food chemicals which irritates the nerve endings. These chemicals are found in groups of foods which accumulate in the body and eventually cause a reaction.

Food Allergies

Food allergies are often inherited and are associated with eczema, asthma and hay fever. Food allergies can range from mild to severe causing vomiting, cramps and diarrhoea, hives, swelling on the face, mouth, eyes. The most sever is a life threatening anaphylaxis attack which cause breathing difficulties due to the throat and tongue swelling or asthma.

Common children’s allergies are soy and cow’s milk, egg, sesame, wheat, seafood, peanut and other nuts. Many children grow out of their food allergies by five but peanut and seafood may continue through adulthood. Allergies but not intolerances can be diagnosed through a skin prick test.

Food Intolerances

Many foods have additives including colourings and preservatives but others have natural chemicals those low in chemicals are almost never a problem. Natural chemicals in foods help to enhance their flavour. Levels may either be high in unripe fruits and decrease with ripening or visa versa. MSG for example is found naturally in tomato, mushroom, silver beet, prune, plum and grape. Organically grown foods may have higher levels of natural preservatives and pesticides in their skin.

Foods moderate in natural chemicals:
The following foods are moderate in natural chemicals:
Fruits: pear, apple (golden, red delicious), mango, banana, papaya, rhubarb.
Vegetables: choko, potato, sweet potato, swede, leeks, celery, carrot, beetroot, marrow, pumpkin, parsnip, turnip, peas, snow peas, Chinese veg, asparagus.
Meats: chicken, eggs, fresh fish, veal, rabbit, lamb, beef.
All dairy foods other than mild and tasty cheeses.
Grains: rice, arrowroot, barley, rolled oats, sago, wheat, rye, buckwheat.

Foods high in chemicals:
Fruits: avocado, date, kiwi fruit, orange, pineapple, grape, plum prune, sultana.
Vegetables: cauliflower, eggplant, broccoli, mushroom, silver beet, tomato, broad bean.
Meats, fish and dairy: Tuna, salami, sausages, seasoned meat and chicken, tasty cheese.
Others: honey, jams, fruit or chocolate flavoured drinks, stocks and sauces.

Food intolerances are rarely serious. If you suspect your child has a food intolerance or allergy contact your family doctor of Paediatrician.

The good news is children often grow out of food intolerances and allergies.
The Royal Prince Alfred Hospital Allergy Unit, NSW has put out a recipe book called “Friendly Food’. It is a guide to avoiding allergies, additives and problem chemicals in foods and can be purchased through the allergy clinic or your local book store.

It is wise to consult a health professional or dietitian if there is a family history of food intolerance, allergies, eczema or asthma (particularly if you are a breastfeeding mother). Restricting a child’s diet unless under professional supervision is not recommend as essential nutrition may be lost. Most babies have grown out of their milk protein intolerances by 9 months and can once again tolerate cow, goat and soy based formulas. While older children usually grow out of food allergies around 3 years of age.

Not all children develop allergies or food intolerances but it is good to be aware and understanding towards those who have these challenges.

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Kids Health

Mon, 29 Mar 2010 20:14:00 GMT

Statistics from National Health & Medical Research Council show that 25% of adults are overweight or obese and 1 in 5 children are also overweight or obese. Both these figures are on the rise.
Obesity in childhood constitutes a risk factor for a range of health problems:
- Diabetes
- sleep apnoea
- liver disease
- psychological problems especially in girls
Health experts recommend children consume nutritious foods for proper growth and development.
Set up healthy habits from the start
Parents should offer fresh foods with fewer preservatives and low in additives and refined sugars. It is also important to watch the fat levels.
READ FOOD LABELS!!: Aim for Fat 10g/100grams, sugars 15g/100grams, high fibre, low salt (sodium)

It is important to find the balance of healthy eating and physical activity.

Some tips for mums and dads:

Enjoy a wide variety of foods – 5 serves vegetables, 2 serves fruit try and choose different colours for different vitamins & minerals
Never skip breakfast! Its true that children perform better at school if they have started the day with a healthy, high fibre breakfast such as weetbix, low fat milk, fruit and wholemeal or multi grain toast
Watch portion sizes – very important to serve food in the recommended quantities: ½ plate vegetables, ¼ plate Meat/Chicken/Fish, ¼ plate rice, pasta or potato. Choose smaller plates, bowls
Get children involved in healthy meal preparations and planning meals and healthy desserts. Get them to plan a ‘menu for the day’. They will love the challenge
Have set meal times and only allow healthy snacks such as fruits and vegetables
Try not to purchase unnecessary snacks bars, including nut bars and dried fruit/muesli bars, these often contain too many calories.
Limit snack foods, especially biscuits, chips, chocolates, lollies. Include fresh fruits and vegetables. Try making fruit kebabs, vegetables boats and healthy dips such as yoghurt, light cream cheese spread (philli light)
No juice, even freshly squeezed or “no added sugar” varieties should be offered. These contain a lot of natural sugars which can contribute to weight gain. Soft drinks are also considered a big “no, no” should not be offered unless on a special occasion. Low fat milk and water should be the only drinks offered.
Limit take-away to once/month. If you are a family relying on take away, choose healthy sandwich wraps, small kebabs (no hommus or cheese please!), have water as part of the meal deal and choose salad instead of fries. Avoid anything deep fried. Have fruit or yoghurt as your dessert.
Eat slowly; allow your hunger signal to turn off before too much food is consumed. Never force children to finish their meals if they are full. Kids will never starve themselves!
Dessert is not a mandatory part of the menu
Exercise; be actively involved in sports, swimming, tennis, soccer, football or dancing. Join a gym if you’re 13 years or older.

Kids lunchboxes

Recess:

2 pieces of fruit tip: fresh = better than tinned or dried fruit
e.g. 15 grapes and 2 plums or 1 apple and 1 nectarine
Rice crackers – limit to 6 or Sakata biscuits (packet) this is better than chips
Raisin toast – 1 slice
Mini fruit homemade muffin
Frozen low fat yoghurt

Lunch:

1 x Sandwich with wholemeal or wholegrain bread/wrap
With salad m/c/f or vegemite or light cream cheeselight sliced cheese/tomato/lettuce or light jam/margarine/labni (homemade with skim milk)
Add a favorite vegetable e.g carrot/cucumber/tomato/celery
Water or diet cordial
Try to avoid left overs and limit canteen treats to once/week or even once/fortnight. Don’t allow your children to purchase canteen food or to assume its a normal thing.
Ice blocks have 1 tablespoon of sugar per serve which would take 30 minutes of money to burn off, soft drinks and juices also have a significant amount of sugar
If you are frustrated the fruit and veg comes home, just offer it for afternoon tea instead of cake or biscuits.

This information has been brought to you by Hanan Saleh (APD,AN) Accredited Practising Dietitian Consultant Paediatric/Adult specialist in weight management
As seen on SBS TV series “Food Investigators”
Her website: www.thefooddoctor.com.au
Email: nutrition@thefooddoctor.com.au

Perinatal Mood Disorders

Mon, 29 Mar 2010 19:55:00 GMT

Also known as perinatal anxiety and depression or antenatal and postnatal depression.

What Does it Actually Mean?

Women who experience a depressed mood during the perinatal period (ie pregnancy to one year post partum) for 2 weeks or more that is impacting on their life. The symptoms may include tearfulness, changes to sleep and eating patterns, feeling overwhelmed, anxious, angry, tired, hyperactive. Around 20% of women and 10% of their partners will experience perinatal anxiety and depression.

Difficulties Associated with Diagnosis

Perinatal mood disorders are multi-factorial with a biological, psychological and social basis. Hormones and chemicals play a role, as does the media, portraying motherhood as blissful and mother as beautiful. General life experiences (past or present) and stressful events (such as moving/renovation, financial concerns), and issues relating to the pregnancy and birth are also factors. Many mothers do not have realistic expectations of motherhood and the major bi0-psycho-social changes that occur. When the reality is exhausting, repetitive and isolating, the transition from independent to invisible can be a shock.

Many women do not want to admit they are not living up to societal or their personal expectations. Other women are not able to articulate their feelings. Women do not want to be judged as mad, bad or sad.

There is under-reporting by women and misdiagnosis by professionals. Referral pathways are difficult.

Getting Professional Help

Professional counselling is considered the most effective treatment. Antidepressant medication can be prescribed in conjunction with counselling, but should be carefully monitored. Professionals who can help include: PG, obstetrician, psychologist, psychiatrist, ECHC nurse, mothercraft nurse, midwife, supported play group.

There are differences in the nature, severity and duration of symptoms of perinatal mood disorders and professional help is recommended in order to diagnose and then identify the best approach to treatment.

General practitioners

General practitioners are generally the first step in seeking professional help. Some GP’s have an interest in PND and will identify and optimal treatment plan for you.

Furthermore, an increasing number of GP’s are registered with the Better Outcomes Project and can refer you to a social worker or psychologist trained in the psychological assessment and the treatment of PND. The Better Outcomes Project enables you to have a number of sessions with a rebate via Medicare.
Remember that your obstetrician or paediatrician can also assist you in seeking help if you let them know that you need help.

Social Workers / Psychologists /Psychiatrists

These professionals are skilled in psychological assessment and in a variety of treatment approaches and can be assessed in private practice or may be part of a medical/counselling practice. They will assess your individual/family needs and tailor a treatment plan to meet your needs.

Early Childhood Health Centres

A number of projects going on and much greater awareness within nursing community and Perinatal mood disorders.

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Thinking about starting your baby on solids?

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:16:00 GMT

Australian Standards

In the past Australia followed the World Health Authorities when giving advice on when to start a baby on solids. WHA suggests not to starting solids before six months of age due to the childhood mortality in third world countries often caused by unhygienic conditions. Australian health professionals have recently recommended changing the age for starting solids between four and six months although they are still encouraging those who breastfeed to continue till at least six month or longer.

The increase of all types of allergies, especially food related allergies, which has greatly increased in the past few years, has cause great concern. Immunologists, doctors and dieticians specialising in allergies have recently recommended starting solids between 4-6 months as delaying the introduction of solids may be interfering with the normal immune development reducing food tolerance and increasing allergies. (see article: The Solids Controversy written by Karen Simmer PHD FRACP. Professor of Newborn Medicine, University of Western Australia). This recent research concludes that delaying the introduction of foods may not only be to the child’s determent but also may have long-term effect on their food preferences.

Guide Lines

Before introducing solids there are some things to take into consideration; the reason why you want to introduce solids, what is the best time to feed your child and how and what foods to introduce first.

One of the guides we look for when starting solids is the child’s readiness, is he/she looking interested in food? Does he/she watch you while you are eating? or are they reaching out for your food? Your instincts will often help you decide. If in doubt try a small spoon of baby cereal and watch the reaction. Remember never force a child and avoid giving large amounts. Start with small amounts. One to two teaspoons for the first month is sufficient. Offer solids about twenty minutes after a milk feed until baby is nine months. Milk is a feed not just a snack and at this age contains all a babies nutritional requirements. By nine months a baby will be eating about one cup of solids before every milk feed except the morning feed when solids usually come after the milk feed. By this age a child should be having from 3-4 milk feeds per day with not feeds over night.

At the beginning, when starting your baby on solids, it is an introduction to food not a meal; this is a taste of things to come. It is a learning experience to encourage baby to develop their tongue and mouth muscles to thrust food backwards. This also helps develop the muscles for speech. For the same reason dummies should be limited only to sleep time and by the age of 9 months eliminated all together otherwise it may hamper speech or cause speech impediments such as a lisp.

From the beginning give your child a spoon to help them learn how to feed themselves. Be prepared for lot of mess, this is part of learning.

Introducing solids or a formula feed before baby’s night sleep to help them sleep through the night is no guarantee for a good night sleep. If a child has never really learn to self settle during the day (sleeping blocks of 2 -2 ½hours) then giving more food at night is not going to help with self settling. Babies generally sleep eight hours at night (without a feed) from three months old and 12 hours from nine to ten months old. There are of course exceptions to the rule when babies sleep through at an earlier age.

What Foods to Introduce First?

Iron enriched rice cereal is commonly the first solid to be introduced due to babies dwindling stores of iron. Cereal can be mixed with breastmilk, cooled boiled water or formula. Cow’s milk and honey should not be given to a child under 12 months. Seasoned food includes salt and sugar should be avoided. Try starting your baby on vegetables to avoid the vegetable aversion that some babies develop when introduces to fruit first.

Don’t be too hasty try new foods. The rule to thumb is to try only one new food every 5 days. Introduce the new food in the morning when you have all day to see if there is an adverse reaction. If baby doesn't like it try again a few days later and keep trying. Babies sometimes need to try up to ten times before they acquire a taste for some foods. Avoid your child becoming a fussy eater by introducing a variety of tastes and textures over the first year of their life. This will also help them to develop a preference for healthy foods.

Baby may gag on the spoon or the food even when it is highly pureed; this is expected as they haven't experienced swallowing solids before. She/he is also learning how to move food from the front to the back of her/his mouth. Proceed with caution while baby learns this new skill and expect a lot of mess.

How Much?

Do not be tempted to over feed your baby; some babies don’t know when to stop. Offer one teaspoon and at the most two for the first month, once a day, then slowly increase to half a cup by six months, twice a day, and one cup three times a day by nine months.

Never force a baby to eat as this can often cause feeding problems and unpleasant mealtimes. When baby shows signs that she/he has had sufficient don’t push her/him to take more just to finish the bowl. If baby begins to spit, throw or play with their food it is time to remove it. This will also encourage baby to eat when it is mealtimes and not play. Have a cup of cooled boiled water on hand to offer baby, encourage the use of a cup. Start to introduce a cup around six months when you are starting her/him on forked mashed solids.

Preparation

If you are using a microwave to heat food make sure you stir the food well to disperse the hot spots. Don’t over heat food or reheat half eaten food. Always take out of the storage container what you need for one meal, and then add more if necessary. Never re-use half eaten food. Freshly prepared food which can be frozen in ice cubes is preferable to processed baby food. Many babies become fussy if only given processed foods and will refuse other types of food including those which are not highly pureed. When you cook your own vegetables take some out to prepare for baby. This will save you time.

This article was written by mothercraft nurse Sally Hall from Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions. If you would like more information on this and other similar topics our E-books are packed full of practical parenting tips. Down load an E-Book specifically related to your child's age group through Publications at Our Shop.

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A Contented Baby

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:16:00 GMT

For the first few months of a baby’s life your baby has three basic needs - feeding, sleeping and love. A well fed baby is generally a happy baby. ‘Nutrition’ then is the first and most important need of a baby, for without it you will not succeed in accomplishing the second which is ‘sleep’. Right from the beginning we need to put into place good eating habits.

Some Facts

If your baby feeds well, they will generally sleep well.
Feeding a baby to sleep is not a good idea, as they begin to associate feeding as a technique to get them to sleep. It is also a very hard habit to break when they are older.
You may also find that your baby will fall asleep on the breast or bottle and not complete a feed. This will cause them to be hungry quicker and usually leads to catnapping and snacking. Try to keep baby awake during and after the day feeds as this encourages baby to sleep for longer periods between feeds and feed well when it is feed-time this in turn leaves time to play before going back to bed. Keep to the guidelines of – feed, play then sleep.
‘demand-feed’ Many mothers fall into a trap with demand-feeding because they believe demand-feeding means feeding their child every time they cry. A well-fed baby will, of its own accord, begin to ‘demand-feed’ every 3½ - 4 hours within the first few weeks of birth.

Ask Yourself the Following

Is my baby crying because they are hungry or is there some other reason for their cry?
Is he/she unsettled because they are over tired, over stimulated, uncomfortable or in pain, or have they woken and just needs to be resettled?
When was the last feed? Even breastfed babies will go 3 - 4 hours between feeds. Calculated the time from the beginning of the last feed to the start of the next feed. If your baby wakes after having less than an hour’s sleep, it is advisable to resettle him/her.
How long did baby nutritively feed for? A breastfed newborn may take up to 45 mins to feed well. If baby falls asleep on the breast, wake them up by tickling the toes, undressing them, or using a wet cloth on their face. As baby gets older, they will become more efficient and quicker to feed. Bottle-fed babies usually take a shorter time to feed, but they too should not be given small feeds regularly but should be fed their full quota every four hours. (The amount baby is needing goes on their weight not on their age as indicated on many of the formula tins)

Baby’s Sleep Cycle

Understanding baby’s sleep cycle will help you understand why they wake and when to resettle. The sleep cycle of a baby is usually thirty to forty-five minutes. During each sleep cycle we have Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep and non-REM sleep, which is when we enter our deep sleep. Every baby’s progression Non-REM is different, with some it takes as long as twenty minutes to enter a deep sleep. Others reach their deep sleep quickly and stir after twenty minutes. We all wake briefly after our deep sleep; this is where many of the difficulties of resettling begin. Most of us do not even remember waking; others such as light sleepers, will wake and resettle themselves. A baby may stir, and even cry, as he/she wakes. If parents are not aware that their baby needs to be resettled at this time, they are often picked up, offered a feed or encouraged to have time up. This pattern repeated day after day will reinforce to the child the need to wake up and stay awake after only a short nap instead of learning to self settle.

Why is Sleep so Important?

Sleep is a basic physiological need. It is crucial for our health because when we sleep, our body repair and restore themself. Lack of sleep for babies therefore hinder growth, robbing their body of the vital rest needed for energy to grow. More than at any other period of our lives the first five years is crucial for physically development therefore the need for large blocks of solid sleep. This growth is also seen in the development of our brains. Consequently sleep deprivation in children may hinder physical and mental development. Not only does sleep effect baby’s growth and development but a child who sleeps well tends to be happier, more settled, healthier and easier to manage both day and night.

Parental sleep is also important. During the night, if your child sleeps soundly in between feeds, you are more likely to be able to cope with waking to feed them. A rested parent has a happier frame of mind and can manage the challenges of parenthood. An unsettled child, who wakes several times during the night to be settled or fed, can cause sleep deprivation which affects the whole family. Older children in the family may also be affected either directly through disturbed sleep, or indirectly through lack of attention and irritable parents. Parents who are up during the night may need to sleep or rest during the day to catch up on their sleep. This can be difficult if you have more than one child.

Some Myths Regarding Sleep for Babies

During my practice as a mothercraft nurse I have heard of many beliefs and myths surrounding sleep for babies and toddlers. Here are some of them.
Myth: Not all babies and toddlers need to sleep during the day.
All babies and toddlers need daytime sleep but amounts of sleep vary depending on their age

Myth: Babies that sleep well at night don’t need long sleeps during the day.
Some babies catnap during the day and fall asleep exhausted at night sleeping sometimes six to eight hours. This often changes. A baby who has not learnt to self-settle during the day often begin to wake several times during the night and demand assistance to resettle.
Myth: Catnaps and night waking are just ‘phases’ babies/toddlers outgrow.
Some babies and toddlers need to learn how to sleep. If they develop a bad sleeping pattern, it may become a lifetime habit which can affect them even as adults in the form of insomnia.
Myth: Changing from breast to formula or starting your baby on solids will help them to sleep better and longer.
There is no guarantee or evidence that either will work if a child has never learnt to self settle.
Myth: Babies need to be picked up in they are unsettled as they may need their nappy changed or to be burped.
Babies were born out of a wet environment are not disturbed by wet or dirty nappies. Wind doesn’t disturb a baby. It is not wind that causes discomfort otherwise why is it that a baby, who isn’t crying, can have a huge burp after being picked up from a sound sleep? It is usually something more than just wind that unsettles a baby.
Myth: All babies have an unsettled period ‘the witching hour’ or ‘arsenic hour’.
I disagree with this as parents who have kept their babies to a good sleep routine do not have an unsettled period unless there is something upsetting the baby such as over handling, poor feed, reflux, teething, an infection or they have never learnt how to self settle.

Signs of a Possible Sleep Problem

Sleeping for less than an hour or “catnapping” during the day.
Frequent night waking.
Needing external assistance to go to sleep - nursing, cuddling, rocking or feeding to sleep or a dependency on a dummy or pacifier is often a sign of a sleep problem.
Frequent waking with small feeds - often just snacking or comfort sucking.

So wrapped up in our doting love for our baby is the understanding that they need to feed well and be encouraged to sleep well. When you have these elements right you are on the right track to having a contented baby.

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Flat Spot on Baby's Head

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:18:00 GMT

Some babies are born with flat spots on their heads. This is often due to the position they were in while in the uterus, other times it may be cause during the birth procedure or as in many cases it is the result of regularly sleeping with the head in the same position.

All babies are born with soft mouldable heads to allow for their passage through the birth canal. These soft malleable bones of the skull are not fused and often slide across one another, overlapping a little during birth. Once born, a newborn has very little head control causing the head to be floppy and roll to one side or the other. If your baby favours one position in particular, this may become a problem. After as little as four hours of sleeping there will be a tendency for the under side of the head to be a little flatter than the upper side. You may have see babies who have very round moon-shaped faces. These tend to be babies who have slept on their backs looking straight up. They often have quite obvious flat spots on the back of their heads.

There is no doubt that the incidence of SIDS has been lowered significantly since the introduction of Safe Sleeping Education. But evidence also suggests that we should make sure that the baby lies with his head turned to alternate sides during each sleep session. This practice should be started from birth.

As the baby develops and become more aware of his surroundings he may tend to turn his head to see bright objects, light, or the approach of his parents of a carer. Positioning the cot to make use of this voluntary turning of the head is a very good practice. Some people find it easier to sleep the baby at alternate ends of the cot.

Placing the baby on his tummy and alternating lying on his right and left sides when awake and supervised is also important. This practice should be started from birth otherwise baby may dislike being on his tummy for extended periods. This is often the case with babies 2 months or older. To help baby enjoy tummy time begin with short periods and keep extending the time until they are able to play happily for up to 60% of their wake time on their tummy. Baby massage, laying beside them on the play mat, lying while on your chest or across your knees, or after the bath on the change table, can be soothing for a baby and teach him that tummy time is pleasant and fun. Tummy time is also important for his brain development.

Mild flattening of the head often resolves itself once the baby is sitting up independently. Don’t be alarmed if you do not see results instantly, as the skull continues to grow and change shape until the age of 18 years. Aside from introducing good positioning techniques and plenty of tummy time, no intervention is required unless your baby has a severe misshapen head or you notice asymmetry in the face. This may include forehead bossing and/or ears or eyes not level with each other. In the more severe cases, a custom moulded helmet is designed to encourage the skull to grow in a more symmetrical manner. This form of intervention is effective on babies aged between 5 months and 18 months, the most common time to treat is between 6 and 12 months. The helmet is generally worn 23 hr/day for about 3 months.

If you have any doubt about the shape of your baby’s head, you can contact a paediatric physiotherapist and you can get further advice about handling and encouraging good development in your baby. There is also a brochure outlining the techniques to help in maintaining good head shape of your baby, available from your APA paediatric physiotherapist or through the National Office of the Australian Physiotherapy Association.

Alti Vogel, an Orthotist, has helped put this article together; she works at the Children’s Hospital assisting in the design and manufacture of helmets for babies with misshapen heads. (Information was also adapted from the Physiotherapy Association of Australia).

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Iron Rich Food

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:17:00 GMT

To ensure you are getting enough dietary iron eat the wide variety of foods that are naturally high in iron. Iron from raw food is absorbed better by the body and therefore cause less constipation.

Here is a list of foods that are rich in iron:

Food	Iron Content (mg)	grams
Cereals, grains and nuts Rice, brown Pasta, wholemeal Bread, wholemeal Wheatgerm Wheatbran Branflakes Cornflakes Soya bean curd, tau hoo Cashew nut Pistachio Walnut Lotus seed Almond Sunflower seed Watermelon seed Soya bean, white lentil Gram, green Gram, red Humus Tahina	1 bowl 200g 1 portion 100g 1 slice 30g 1 teaspoon 15g 1 tablespoon 15g 3/4 cup 30g 1 cup 30g 1 small square 85g 1/2 cup 65g 1/2 cup 65g 1/2 cup 50g 1/2 cup 15g 2 tablespoons 30g 1/2 cup 70g 1/2 cup 50g 1/2 cup 50g 1 cup 180g 1 cup 250g 1 cup 250g 3 tablespoons 50g 2 teaspoons 25g	1.0 1.8 1.0 1.1 1.8 5.0 3.6 1.9 5.0 2.5 1.5 0.6 1.2 3.2 3.1 3.0 14.4 13.8 10.5 2.6 9.0
Fruits Apricot, semi-dried Dates, black, dried Dates, red, dried Raisins Longan, dried Fig, dried Prunes, semi-dried Peach, fresh	10 halves 35g 10 90g 10 90g 1 packet 42g 1/2 cup 65g 10 85g 10 85g One 155g	1.2 3.3 3.0 1.5 3.5 3.6 2.2 1.6
Vegetables Kale, Chinese (kai lan) Spinach (bayam pasir) Kang kong Chinese cabbage (bok choy) Mustard leaves, chye sim Seaweed, dried (hai tai) Sea moss (fa chai)	1 cup 65g 1 cup 30g 1 cup 30g 1 cup 170g 1 cup 55g 1 sheet 15g 1 pinch 10g	1.3 1.5 1.6 1.6 0.7 3.3 9.9
Meat, Poultry and Fish Beef, lean Pork, lean Pork liver Pig kidney Mutton, lean Turkey meat cooked Chicken, skinless Chicken liver Egg yolk Egg, whole Fish Ikan bilis (white bait) Prawns, dried Oyster, fresh Sardine, canned	1 palm-sized piece 90g 1 palm-sized piece 90g 2 slices 30g One 230g 1 palm-sized piece 90g 1 palm-size piece 20g 1 palm-sized piece 90g One 50g One 17g One 50g 1 fillet 90g 2 tablespoons 15g 1 teaspoon 5g 12 60g 1 fish 40g	2.8 1.2 3.1 13.8 2.1 4.8 0.8 5.1 0.8 0.9 1.2 0.6 0.7 3.7 1.8

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Also see: Food intolerances' and Allergies in Children

Preparing for Childcare or School

Sat, 08 May 2010 22:17:00 GMT

Preparing your child for the first day of childcare or school can be a daunting task physically, financially and emotionally. If you are preparing for school you may possibly need a whole new wardrobe of school clothes, shoes, a hat and school bag which will be filled with pencils, books, a lunch box and drink bottle.   For childcare you will need similar items which of course all need to be labelled including spare cloths, undies or nappies and possibly bedding if your child is sleeping during their stay. If it is a young baby you will also need a supply of bottles with either expressed milk or formula. Not only do you have to be prepared with all these requirements but you will also need to prepare yourselves as parents and your child for the emotional changes you will face.

Your child needs you to be calm and confident. To give them the confidence that this is ok and this is a normal part of growing up. It is better for your child if you do not show any fear or anxiety. If you are portraying any hesitation about them starting school or being away from you your child will pick these up and also become fearful and anxious. This is not a good start.   This will also include when you drop your child off. Be positive.   Walk confidently as you enter the premises.   You may like to stay awhile with your child till he/she finds a friend or carer or introduce them to another child of a similar age so that they can help each other adjust to their new environment.

If possible prepare your child in advance by visiting the childcare or school, take a walk around the premises, through the playground and their room, and introduce them to their teacher.   Talk about the things they will be going to do, things they may be learning, and the new friends they will make. It is often helpful if you already know some of your child’s friends who will be attending the same childcare or school, if not talk about the new friends they will soon be making.

A good way to do this is to meet other parents and have them visit your home or join them in a local park for play with their child. Schools are often very happy to help you organise a parents gathering.

If your child is going to school they will need plenty of sleep to be alert in the classroom. A child should be having 12 hours sleep at night to help their little brains and bodies develop and to assist their immune systems recharge. Remember they will be very tired after their big day at childcare or school. They will also have burned up lots of calories and will probably be hungry therefore have healthy snacks and a fresh drink with you when you pick them up after school or have an early dinner and a piece of fruit before an early bed.

It is not always easy to arrange your new schedule. You may need to be up earlier than usual to prepare the family and get out of the house on time without too much of a rush.    Prepare as much as you can the night before. Lay out the clothes that need to be worn, put the socks with the shoes. Shoes should have been worn in before wearing them to childcare or school otherwise your child may have to contend with the discomfort of blisters as well as nerves on his/her first day.

Pack the school bag with all items bar the perishables and put the bag on the kitchen counter ready to pack with the lunch and snacks before you leave. For school goers, it might be wise to pack a spare pare of undies and socks in case of accidents. Go through the childcare or school check list making sure all items have been put into the bag.   Give your child an early night before childcare or school starts.

Mums, if this is the first time you and your child have had a day apart you may find that you have separation anxiety. This is quite normal.   If you are a single child family and a stay at home mum you may have to prepare yourself for a quiet home or you may be looking forward to returning to full or part time work this can help you to keep your mind of the fact that your little one is no longer around.   It may help if you talk things over with your partner an understanding friend or family member.

For those who have little ones still at home you may need to plan their sleeps around the drop offs and pickups.   Younger siblings often learn to sleep to and from school in the car or pram.   It is not always easy for mums to find someone to babysit sleeping younger siblings but once you get to know other parents whose children attend the same school you may be able to share these trips.

With children at childcare or school you will have time to enjoy more one-on-one time with those still at home but remember to give lots of attention to your childcare or school child when they arrive home as they may feel left out and in need of extra reassurance and attention.

Allow time at the end of each day to chat about what happened, you will learn the most on the way home from childcare or school so a chat about the day yours and theirs, in the car or walking should be daily routine. There may be lots of questions that you cannot answer. Don’t be afraid to ask their teacher. Have a children’s dictionary and atlas close at hand - you will find these a valuable source of information to help answer some of their new questions. Home-work can start early in some schools but if not you should be reading daily to them already. They can soon start to help read the books you enjoy before bed. With an older child who may return with home work, try not to do it for them. Their school work is for them to learn not to show how great an artist their mum is or how wiz bang dad is on computer layouts. They will also be full of new knowledge, be interested and share what you know too.

The first day at childcare or school is an exciting time and a milestone to remember. Photos are a great way to remember this memorable day.   Your little one is growing up, the apron strings are being stretched.

This article was written by mothercraft nurse Sally Hall from Cradle 2 Kindy Parenting Solutions. If you would like more information on similar parenting topics please go to our Articles page.

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